The Contingency Plan

Between you and me, I've become one of those busy people.

I didn't realise until I recently tried to organise time to see Drew (who I haven't seen since last November!) and figured I couldn't do it. There was no time.

Nearly every minute of every waking moment is spoken for. First there's time with Hugo, work time (having my own business means doing more than the usual full time hours), home time where I do things like make dinners, sort laundry, change bedding, organise bills and tidy, then there's time with immediate family, phone calls to friends (usually made while I'm cooking or cleaning), time entertaining visitors and if I'm lucky..... I get to see Luc. Alone.

I think this was the last time Luc and I went out on a date - yes, it was last May, a year ago. I keep thinking we've surely been on another since then but don't think we have. Eek.

I read an article in today's Sydney Morning Herald that says I'm not alone. And when I read this article last week, I had to send it off to Penelope as it quite accurately describes me and Luc.

She wrote back: "I"m happy to say that Frog (her boyfriend's unfortunate nickname) and I aren't DINS (double income, no sex). You two need to go away for a dirty weekend :)"

So in between his work meetings and furtive job interviews I've been chatting to Luc about scheduling time to hang out together. The only problem is, is that he's so busy and so super dooper stressed that he can't think of anything besides his woes.

So dear friends I've decided to plan something. Surprise him. Woo him. But my mind is blank. I have nothing.

So does anyone have any suggestions on how two people still in love but lacking time can re-connect? I'm thinking something fun but nothing too intense or heavy.... ??? And would naturally love you forever and call our next love child after you. Naturally.

I guess it's going on winter in Australia, so the beach is out of the question. Is there an amusement park or natural park nearby where you can spend a day (with or without Hugo?). Does your nanny live in? If so, she could keep Hugo overnight while you go away. If not, maybe you could pay her a little more to spend a night. How about Natasha, could she stay with Hugo overnight?

You could buy a cute greeting card and mail it to him (yes, I know he lives there, but stick it in with his other mail) and write your sentiments within. I've read on marriage advice sites that you have to make the effort to plan a date otherwise it just won't happen. Of course, easier said than done with the expense of entertainment, hotels, babysitters, etc. Not to mention the time, which is the one thing you are short on.

My hubby and I make a planned date every month. We take turns planning (it's usually a surprise) Once my hubby and I did something as simple as playing board games while having a glass or two of wine. I thought we were going out for the date, but my hubby tricked me and we ended up staying in. It was nice and relaxing, not to mention cheap! We've gone for walks (I live in Nova Scotia, so we have beautiful trails and waterfront not too far away), went on a scavenger hunt (although that was a little more involved) We write it in a journal so we have a keepsake.

They're all great ideas! Thank you :)

Yes, Rachel does live with us and I can also ask Natasha or my Mum to stay over as well. I think I'd feel safer knowing my mother was with him as she can handle anything.

I adore the idea of a journal but think Luc probably wouldn't be into it. I guess I could try? I don't like placing expectations on these things so perhaps we could create a Polaroid book instead - a photo from each date?? I really like the concept of a keepsake.

Hm, have some ideas now. Thank you! Would welcome any more suggestions as well :))